The Complex Reality of Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day is coming around again on 22 March. Cafes and restaurants will inevitably get booked up, the shops will be brimming with flowers and Mums throughout the land will be hoping for a lie-in, hoping for some presents, and hoping that someone else will voluntarily and willingly do all the chores for the entire day. This, however, may not be the reality for all Mums everywhere.

For many of us, a more likely scenario is this: Your kids wake you up early with home-made or school-made cards, a daffodil from outside, and their version of a perfect Mummy breakfast – buttered toast and jam, a bowl of cereal with pieces of fruit, scrambled eggs and bacon (all prepared under the watchful eye of a responsible adult or teenager of course, who may need reminding to clean the kitchen afterwards). And then the rest of the day is pretty much the same as every other day.

Or perhaps you’re going out to some Mother’s Day event, with some nice but predictable treats like tea, triangular sandwiches, cakes and a nice cold glass of Prosecco. This could be lovely. Some relaxing time together as a family. But what if you don’t like cake? What if you can’t afford to go out? What if you’re on your own? What if all you really want is a day off to get lost in an art gallery?

The dates and traditions may vary, but Mother’s Day is celebrated all around  the world. It is a chance to express love and respect for mothers everywhere, and to appreciate all the things that they do.

But for some people, Mother’s Day is  a poignant or sad time, marking the loss of a parent or a partner, or even a child. If this is true for you, perhaps you can view the day as an opportunity to dig out some photos and remember. Or to ask for some help with the kids so that you can be extra kind to yourself.

Maybe your Mother’s Day will be brilliant and maybe it won’t be. Whatever your reality, please accept a salute, a knowing smile and a nod of understanding from Little Tigers.